Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Deep Thought? - By Me

People think that the three most powerful words you can speak are "I love you." But I think think that these three may be bigger: "How are you?" If you really want to know the answer to "how are you?' it shows you mean "I love you."


Anonymous Anonymous said...

How are you, Rabbi?

July 2, 2015 at 12:20 PM  
Blogger rabbi neil fleischmann said...

Thanks for asking. I'm good, thank G-d.

A friend of mine's mother passed away very young (it's mind boggling - we were in semichah at the time, and she was in her forties, which now seems so young, but I didn't get that then). When he spoke about her he said that whenever asked how she was she always replied, Baruch Hashem, fantastic! What a level!

I am a sensitive soul, which sometimes means I'm anxious, feeling so much. Being sensitive doesn't always mean I'm as kind as I wish I was It sometimes means that I get all knotted up whem I feel/know i didn't act kindly, or as kindly as i wish I had. Sometimes I make messes for myself, not acting on what I truly feel or not knowing what I truly feel or some other related variation.

I am flawed.

At this moment (1:13 PM) on an Erev Shabbos/Friday I am hungry. Definitely for food, but hunger is always tied up with more than food.

I feel like I have to eat, have to do other things. I'd like to just write for a long time here, now. Have to move forward.

I don't think, upon further reflection, that how are you always means I love you. But it can mean I love you, and put better, if asked in the right way it can mean I care. That's what I really wanted to say that how are you, said right, is a crucial and concise way of saying thst you care.

How are you?

July 3, 2015 at 1:25 PM  

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