Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Deep Thought? - By Me

People think that the three most powerful words you can speak are "I love you." But I think think that these three may be bigger: "How are you?" If you really want to know the answer to "how are you?' it shows you mean "I love you."

2 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

How are you, Rabbi?

July 2, 2015 at 12:20 PM  
Blogger rabbi neil fleischmann said...

Thanks for asking. I'm good, thank G-d.

A friend of mine's mother passed away very young (it's mind boggling - we were in semichah at the time, and she was in her forties, which now seems so young, but I didn't get that then). When he spoke about her he said that whenever asked how she was she always replied, Baruch Hashem, fantastic! What a level!

I am a sensitive soul, which sometimes means I'm anxious, feeling so much. Being sensitive doesn't always mean I'm as kind as I wish I was It sometimes means that I get all knotted up whem I feel/know i didn't act kindly, or as kindly as i wish I had. Sometimes I make messes for myself, not acting on what I truly feel or not knowing what I truly feel or some other related variation.

I am flawed.

At this moment (1:13 PM) on an Erev Shabbos/Friday I am hungry. Definitely for food, but hunger is always tied up with more than food.

I feel like I have to eat, have to do other things. I'd like to just write for a long time here, now. Have to move forward.

I don't think, upon further reflection, that how are you always means I love you. But it can mean I love you, and put better, if asked in the right way it can mean I care. That's what I really wanted to say that how are you, said right, is a crucial and concise way of saying thst you care.

How are you?

July 3, 2015 at 1:25 PM  

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